Anal Sex Tips

You see these two things all the time in anal porn movies – either the actor squirts a big stream of sex lube onto the girls anus, ass cheeks, and everything else in view, or he puts a little dab on her anus, then jams his cock in. Neither of these is the right way to use lubes for anal sex.

So, let me suggest, from my experience, the best way to use anal lubes. First, and believe me this is very important, is to make sure you have some hand towels or at the very least paper towels nearby and handy where you usually have sex. If your relationship is new, I suggest hand towels, actual cloth towels, because chicks dig them and appreciate the extra effort. Why towels? Because sex lube is very messy, and to use it right your hands are likely to get sticky and messy and slippery, so you are going to need to wipe your hands off as soon as you have applied the lube. Believe me, the first time you put and lube without wiping your hands, and then try to grab your girls hips and tits and your hand slips off and you leave a mess and she says “Yuucckk”, you will know exactly why towels are important with sexlubes. You can try wiping your hands off on the sheets, or jumping up to grab some clothing or whatever for the purpose, but don’t be a chump, keep some towels ready for sex purposes.

Second, usually it’s better to put the lube on your cock than to try to put it on her asshole. (This is especially true if you are using a condom.) Put a good squirt of lube into the palm of your hand, and grab your hardon and put a coating of lube all over your cock. Try to concentrate the lube on the tip of your cock and the area where it is widest. Make sure you have lube all the way around, you don’t want to have a dry area which will stick and pull her delicate inner rectal flesh.

Sometimes you will want to squirt a little bit more on your fingertips, and apply this to her anus. But it usually isn’t necessary.

(I’m not going to mention here the complexities of using lube for fingering her ass, I’ll leave that for another entry.)

And, sometimes, especially if this is one of the first times you are going to have anal sex, once you have lubed your whole cock, put a little more lube onto your fingertips and apply an extra thick layer on the tip of your cock, to provide a bit of extra slipperiness for the initial entry.

Now, quickly wipe your hands clean and dry. This is the time to put at least one hand on her body, to re-establish physical touch, because during the time you have been lubing up, she has been thinking, and the last thing you want is for her to be thinking too much.

Again, you will want to practice using lubes during regular vaginal sex, to get used to using them, and to get your partner used to them also. But, for regular sex you will want to use substantially less lube. Just don’t make the mistake of never using lube, and then fumbling with it the first time you use it for anal.

So, to recap – put the lube on yourself, more than on her, and be ready to clean up the mess.

The truth is that almost every woman alive is interested and willing to be talked into having anal sex. They’ve heard other women at least talking about it, giggling about it, or bitching about it, and they know it can both hurt, and feel very good. They know the folklore, the mythology of anal sex. And, especially if they haven’t tried it, they know they wouldn’t say no if the right man asked them in the right way to surrender their asshole.

But there is many a slip ‘twixt the cup and the lip. (jeez, does anybody say that anymore? ). It’s only natural that the women, the receiving and more vulnerable partner, is likely to get nervous and a bit scared. The unfamiliarity of it all, using different sexual positions than usual, combined with the mix of anal folklore and the sense of the taboo, is enough to make anybody nervous.

And, especially if you and your partner have gotten a little stale in bed, depending too often on the old reliable missionary position, to jump from that to a face in the bed ass in the air anal sex position is going to be a shock.

Shocked and nervous people are going top have a hard time relaxing the muscles in the anus and rectum. She is going to tighten up, it’s going to hurt a lot more than it should, and there goes your first (and last) anal experience.

Obviously the point I am trying to make here is that if you are smart you will start out by, before you ever mention anal sex, becoming more athletic and demanding in your regular sex lives. As you are fucking, try more positions, stop what you usually do, after doing a few minutes of it, and move her into a position you don’t ordinarily use. Fuck for a few minutes more, and then move her into an anal sex position, for example ordinary doggy style, or on her belly with a pillow or two under her hips. Fuck her hard in that position, and when you come, snuggle with her a bit more lovingly than usual so that she associates that type of sex with extra special loviness from you.

When the time comes for anal sex, and you move into a position she is familiar with and associates with good sex, the chances of her relaxing and loving it just shot thru the roof- just like your mind will when you come deep inside her bottom.