Archive for December, 2006

“…. Suburban Workshops about (Heterosexual) Anal Sex”

Saturday, December 30th, 2006

Another trend I’ve noticed in the past few months is a trend in Academia and Literature of embracing anal sex as a subject for writing, study, and literary appreciation. I’ve collected a few articles about this and I hope to post a group of them in the next week or so. Here’s an example, in the news today, of a look at literary criticism and analysis involving anal sex…

Is the Rectum a Text?

“The most anticipated talk may have been by Paul Morrison, a professor of English at Brandeis University, who it turns out didn’t even come up with the title about the rectum (which was in part a play on a famous work of gay studies, Leo Bersani’s essay “Is the Rectum a Grave?”), but forged ahead anyway after Ladenson suggested it.

Provocative paper titles are of course something of an MLA tradition… Morrison’s paper talk was surprising because — although it contained more uses of the word “asshole” than is the norm at scholarly meetings or most other meetings, for that matter — he’s actually arguing that there’s more to life than sex and that focusing on body parts, even supposedly subversive body parts…

… The reason Morrison answers the question of his title in the affirmative is that society has declared the behind to have overtaken the breast. He quoted from a New York Times article: “After more than 50 years of breast fixation, the bottom has come into its own. Jennifer Lopez’s generous seat may be driving the trend, or it may just embody, so to speak, the current ideal.”

And it’s not just the Times, but articles about anal sex in women’s magazines, suburban workshops about (heterosexual) anal sex, and so forth, he said.

But before society applauds itself too much, Morrison said in an interview, it needs to recognize that it hasn’t really evolved in shifting the focus downward from the breast. “I’m saying we haven’t really moved in any meaningful way because we are still assigning too much meaning to the body,” he said.

“We are exerting the same kind of exaggerated, deconstructed power that we once gave to female genitalia,” he said. “We’re still within a Freudian economy of the body.” What would be a true advance, Morrison said, would be to approach the behind “under the rubric of pleasure, not meaning.”

Is The Rectum A Text?

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Friday, December 29th, 2006

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Anal Rape, and Girls That Don’t Ever Want Anal

Thursday, December 28th, 2006

Dan Savage dealt with a strange and interesting letter this week, one that should be of interest to every man interested in anal sex with a woman. Read the article first, so you can get a sense of what I’m talking about.

A Bad Ex by Dan Savage in the Village Voice

“About a year ago, Enis asked me if we could have anal sex. I might lose your sympathy here, but I have no interest in anal sex at all. I had a traumatic experience with anal sex that resulted in some permanent damage; I cannot do it without a lot of pain. I told Enis no and that I was surprised he had asked, given my past. I offered to do him, if that was what he was looking for. He refused, telling me he wasn’t gay. He asked me to reconsider a few more times, but I always told him no. Enis even attempted to just “add it in” while we were having sex once. It fucking hurt, and I flipped out on him. I told him I wasn’t going to change my mind, and if he had to have anal sex then he could have it with someone else, giving him an out if it mattered that much to him.

A month ago, we were making love. I was restrained to the bed; we did this all the time. The next thing I knew, he was fingering my anus. I told him to stop, but he wouldn’t. He took his time, stretching and lubing. I was screaming and crying for him to stop the whole time. I won’t get into how much it hurt, but suffice it to say I nearly passed out from blood loss as a result of his tearing open old scars. He freaked out when he saw the amount of blood on the bed and called 911. (This was after he’d had an orgasm.) I spent a week in the hospital and ended up with 30 stitches to rerepair the damage. I’m still in a lot of pain. “

Dan Savage then writes in reply:

“Good fucking God. Your ex should get down on his knees twice a day and thank his lucky fucking stars that you didn’t press charges. He raped you—you know that, right? The word rape doesn’t appear anywhere in your letter, NCA, which I hope isn’t a sign that you see this “incident” as anything other than a full-blown sexual assault. So what if Enis used lube? So what if he took his time? Some rapists use condoms and say “please” and “thank you.” They’re still rapists. “

It’s a strong letter, and a strong reply. But, there are parts of it I’m having a hard time buying. And I’m not sure the situation is as black and white as either the correspondent or Dan Savage is making out.

This couple had been together for longer than a year, and, according to the letter, (”I was restrained to the bed; we did this all the time.”) bondage sex was a regular part of their play. Is unrequested anal sex during consensual frequently practiced bondage such an outrageous act? I think it depends a lot on the people and the situation.

Should he have stopped, given that she says she was “screaming and crying for him to stop the whole time”. Clearly, definitely. Saying “Oh No, don’t put it there…”, then groaning and grunting, is totally different from screaming and crying to stop. Clearly there was somthing very wrong in the communication between the couple that led to a disaster.

I’ve said here before that with anal sex you have to be very observant and aware of your partner. In fact, I’d say three quarters of the time I’ve had anal sex I’ve ended up stopping, or in some other way modifying what I was doing, because I could tell my partner wasn’t ready for the full blast “OH GOD OH GOD!” anal experience. I strongly suggest this approach - when you initiate anal play and anal sex, be 100% ready to let it go without any worries or attachment if it doesn’t seem like it’s going to work out.

At the same time, and I suppose I should feel bad for this, I have at times taken control of a situation and made a girl go thru with full depth anal sex wether or not she wanted to - usually in breakup and makeup sex. Every time, in my experience, it was a powerful, mutually satisfying and bonding experience for both of us. And, in less charged situations, I’ve had women tell me that it helped them to have me be dominant and grab their hair and tell them that they could take it, that it would only hurt for a minute, and that they would start to really like it very soon.

We’re starting to enter dark and mysterious psychological realms, which are one of the things that anal sex is all about.

This leads me to wonder what the psychological dynamic between the couple in Dan’s letter was all about - and wonder if there were other unspoken issues between the two, for which anal sex was a symbol - for which anal rape was a symbol.

One of the things that the writer of the letter said that struck me was this - “if he had to have anal sex then he could have it with someone else, giving him an out if it mattered that much to him. “.

Hindsight is always 20/20, but I’m sure many of you men out there have heard this line before, or one of it’s variations. “I won’t do that dirty thing with you”, then the disdainful challenge to go do it with someone else.

Guys, when women say this, you’re probably wisest to believe them, and either dump them or have affairs on them, because they are basically calling you a loser. There are women out there who will have anal sex with the man who has the deep desire to have anal sex, and frankly, they are a better quality of woman than the woman who acts like her asshole is too special for your cock, and treats you like a dog for wanting her that way.

Pussy Then Ass Then Mouth

Saturday, December 23rd, 2006

These were some pretty good ass2mouth videos, from the pussy ass mouth website, worth taking a look at… I fuckin well enjoyed them anyway. ;-}

Cute little gaper with a2m movies.

Exotic beauty sucks cock straight from her anus.

Hot blond making great noises then glug glug.

Young brunete ass pounded then she tastes the cock.

Help - I Had Anal Sex Now I’m Pregnant

Thursday, December 21st, 2006

“My boyfriend and I are sexually involved. Around eight days back, we had anal sex without using any protection. Now there is some kind of fluid being secreted from my breast. Could I be pregnant?”

“You can’t get pregnant from anal sex but if some of the semen touches the vagina, it is possible that you could be pregnant. I suggest you have a pregnancy test done by a pathologist. The fluid in the breast cannot be due to the event. If it reoccurs, see a gynaecologist.”

This little bit of writing was from a newspaper published in Mumbai, India - proving at the very least that (a) people are enjoying anal sex all over this planet, and (b) some questions, like “Can I get pregnant from anal sex?” are universal.

But that question has a well known and obvious answer, the same answer that applies to all sexual activity that includes the male orgasm and emmission of sperm. Sperm is motile, it “swims” and moves, and if it manages to get into the vagina, there’s a chance, altho a smallish one, that the sperm will swim it’s way to the uterus, and if the uterus is in the right chemically receptive state (that is, if this happens during or just before the woman’s fertile time roughly in the middle of her menstrual cycle) the sperm has a chance of making it’s way into the uterus, up the fallopian tube, and of meeting with the egg.

If that happens, you get knocked up.

As every woman (or man) who has received anal sex and had a man orgasm in the anus knows, sperm will drip out slowly for a fair amount of time afterwards. That sperm is likely to be still alive, and altho this should be obvious, the sperm that drips out is awfully close to the vagina. So, you had better be a bit careful.

After anal sex, if the man orgasms inside the anus, I do suggest the woman spend a little time in the bathroom afterwards, sitting on the toilet and trying to expel the semen. This is also a great time for anal sex’s very best friend, the disposable bottled enema.

If you are really knowledgable and skilled with anal sex, you already know that giving the receptive partner a quick disposable enema or two before having anal sex is a very good idea. ( This is especially true if your receptive partner is a man - I’m not sure why this is, but men tend to have more crap in their lower colon than women do, and anal sex with a man is much more likely to be messy than anal sex with a woman.)

Here’s a bit more about the mess of anal sex.

Well, if you are a fertile woman, and you’ve had anal sex, using a disposable enema afterwards is a good idea to add a bit of extra protection from the risk of these pesky sperms getting frisky and swimming from the droplet of post-coital cum from the anus, across the perineum, and up the vagina to the egg.

So, to sum up, you don’t get pregnant from anal sex, but, sperm is alive and tricksy, so as with all sex involving fertile women, pay close attention to where that sperm get’s to afterwards, be aware that sperm drips from the anus for us to a day or two, and don’t allow that sperm to get near the vagina.

Is “Freak Dancing” about Anal Sex?

Sunday, December 17th, 2006

More signs of our societies growing interest in, and dare I say obsession with, anal sex - now the matrons are dissing the kids for the anal implications of the ‘freekin’.

Freaky Dance & Anal Sex

What is freak dancing? Well, it’s a representation of anal sex set to hip-hop music. The boy makes thrusting moves at his partner’s rear. Sometimes the girl hikes up her skirt to facilitate contact. And if she’s feeling athletic, she may assume the doggy-style sexual position, bending over and putting her hands on the floor. One variation has two males surrounding a female and rubbing at her front and back. Other names for this dance are “grinding,” “the nasty” or just “freaking.” For further reference, consult MTV.”

“The Charleston was a suggestive dance, particularly the movement where the flapper opens and closes her knees. The tango, the Lindy and the twist all had their detractors. The same goes for the sensuous and hip-swinging Latin dances. But all these dances showcase body movement. They don’t intend to mimic actual sex, much less anal sex.”

Washintonienne Anal Sex Blog Posts Lead to Civil Trial

Saturday, December 16th, 2006

Mike DeWine was a fuckin’ asshole, btw. It’s wonderful that he’s fuckin gone, and if there’s any justice, he’ll live on in ignomy, a laughingstock.

But his cute assistant (see pic in link below), whose job was to destroy letters from Ohio citizens without reading them (she says - “She liked to joke that her job was really to throw out the mail, the stacks of letters from earnest voters who believe members of Congress actually care what they think. “), used to take cocks up the ass from powerful washington types for money (she says). She used to complain that her powerful assfuckers wanted to bugger her without getting her drunk first, and it hurt.

Jessica Cutler put her dirty secrets on the Web

Moral? Use lube for anal sex!

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15939250/

“The nightmare for Robert Steinbuch began two years ago when he met Jessica Cutler, a staffer for Sen. Mike DeWine (R-Ohio) They were immediately attracted to each other. Steinbuch, who worked for the Judiciary Committee, had thought he had met the girl of his dreams. But just two weeks into their sizzling relationship, he discovered his new lover was sleeping with at least five other men and keeping a Web diary — called Washingtonienne — of her bedroom antics — including Steinbuch’s — in X-rated detail. But Cutler identified Steinbuch only as “RS”.

Then, POW! The tell-all diary is posted in a blog called Wonkette, viewed widely, and becomes the talk of Washington. What do you do?”

More Technical Virginity

Friday, December 15th, 2006

Is technical virginity a myth, or fact?

Sex and the Sexes

“My absolute favorite example of this is good little christian girls who have anal sex to preserve their physical virginity.”

Can’t you just see it, a good little christian girl, with her little gold cross dangling around her neck, on her hands and knees in her frilly flower bedecked and furry animal populated bed, grunting and gasping and moaning and biting the pillow as her good christian boyfriend plows her teenage anus like a madman… lucky guy, eh?

Bringing “It” To The Backdoor

Saturday, December 2nd, 2006

More college papers than ever seem to be including columns on anal sex…

http://www.dailycolonial.com/go.dc?p=3&s=3554

“Those who do participate, men and women alike, report that there exists great pleasure potential in the anus. For men, the prostate becomes stimulated when the anus is penetrated, allowing some men to climax by simply being anally penetrated. Some women, although not as many, are also able to orgasm from being anally penetrated, however these cases are usually supplemented by clitoral stimulation.

Either way, the anus possesses innumerable nerve endings, making anal sex an viable opportunity for sexual satisfaction.

Edward O. Laumann’s The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States found that about 20 percent of heterosexuals have engaged in anal sex and sex researcher Alfred Kinsey found that number to be closer to 40 percent.

A female GW junior who wished to remain anonymous told me that: “I love having anal sex with my boyfriend, when the time is right. Sometimes you get bored of the same old sex and anal mixes things up and also makes me feel good in a way no other kind of sex does. Even if it’s not actual sex, fingers feel really good too.”"

The Faces Women Make During Anal Sex

Saturday, December 2nd, 2006

The face a woman makes during anal sex.

Little Veronica really shows how it feels to be buttfucked

Girl next door shows a nice little gaper