Archive for February, 2007

Side Effects of Anal Sex

Wednesday, February 28th, 2007

This wasn’t a particularly good article, but interesting in that it’s women asking women this question…

http://www.women24.com/W24/Experts/

“Any and all anal play requires a relaxed anus of the one being penetrated, a finger, toy, dildo, or penis covered in a latex condom or glove. It requires consent of both people as forced anal penetration creates tears in the anus so leaving both people at risk to infection. As you can see side effects are primarily health issues. And these can be well managed if protective behaviour is practiced.”

I suspect that what the woman asking the question wanted to know was, “does having anal sex damage my rectum in some way, so that I’ll have to wear diapers when I’m old? And if it does, how long can I do it before that starts to be a problem…?”.

This seems to be a big concern with some women. And it’s not terribly easy to get good information on wether or not this is an actual risk. So I thought I’d ask, do any of my readers know anything about this?

I do have my own information about this, and I’ll try to get back to a further answer of this question in the future.

Analsex Increasing In Popularity Among Heterosexuals

Wednesday, February 21st, 2007

A very good article with a nice picture of a womans butt crack – well worth a read…

“Every couple of years, another once-scandalous sex taboo starts making its way toward the commonplace. A decade ago, blow jobs were what people whispered about; then three-ways became the naughty bedroom act. Now, it’s anal sex—but according to the Centers for Disease Control’s National Survey of Family Growth, it’s rapidly becoming a regular feature of hetero couples’ horizontal activities.

The survey, released last year, showed that 38.2 percent of men between 20 and 39 and 32.6 percent of women ages 18 to 44 engage in heterosexual anal sex. Compare that with the CDC’s 1992 National Health and Social Life survey, which found that only 25.6 percent of men 18 to 59 and 20.4 percent of women 18 to 59 indulged in it.

… “More and more, people are devoting themselves to learning about anal pleasure,â€? says Carolyn Riccardi, education coordinator for Babeland’s New York retail stores. “Male-to-female anal sex has been happening since the dawn of time,â€? she says. “What’s different now is that women are actively learning how to enjoy it and have fun with it.â€?

“I first did it with my husband,� says Lisa, a recently divorced thirtysomething from across the Hudson. “It was a regular part of our married sex life, and I enjoyed it. I think it can feel good for anyone—except if you’re too uptight about it, meaning, you’re literally tight-assed.�

Ah, yes, the anal-sex dilemma: If you think it’s going to hurt, it will. Relaxation isn’t the only requirement for a good experience: Too much aggression (and no lube) can put a woman off anal sex permanently.”

http://nymag.com/nightlife/mating/25988/?imw=Y

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Saturday, February 3rd, 2007


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“Anal Sex 101″ from Dan Savage

Saturday, February 3rd, 2007

Dan Savage is a funny guy with one of the best sex advice colums being written today – and because he’s gay he understands anal sex far better than most people. He’s always worth reading. I get the Village Voice email edition just to read Savage every week.

He wrote a good entry called Anal Sex 101 last week, it’s your basic stuff, but fun to read, visit the link, you’ll enjoy it.

His second entry is about gay anal sex, so don’t read it if that kind of thing makes you nervous. Personally, I think his advice is 100% applicable to having anal with women, it’s the ‘hold still after she comes’ trick, and it’s pretty important to know.

Anal Sex 101 by Dan Savage

“Q: … I am now dating a woman whom I love intensely and who is open to anal sex, but we just can’t make it happen. Toys, fingering, eating ass, fucking—it all hurts her. She is a ballerina and therefore small with a tight frame. I know that you probably don’t have some super-secret gay-guy ass-sex trick, but is there a best plan of action here?”

“A: Toys, if they’re too big and ineptly employed, can hurt. Fingers, with their bony knuckles and sharp nails, can hurt. Fucking can hurt. But eating ass never hurt anyone. I mean, tongues and sparkling-clean buttholes go together like rama-lama-lama-ke-ding-a-de-ding-a-dong. So unless you’re wearing a diamond-encrusted grill or you studied eating ass under Jeffrey Dahmer, there are only three plausible explanations for this baffling assertion, listed here in ascending order of plausibility: (1) Your tongue is four feet long and it irritates her esophagus when you rim her….”