The truth is that almost every woman alive is interested and willing to be talked into having anal sex. They’ve heard other women at least talking about it, giggling about it, or bitching about it, and they know it can both hurt, and feel very good. They know the folklore, the mythology of anal sex. And, especially if they haven’t tried it, they know they wouldn’t say no if the right man asked them in the right way to surrender their asshole.
But there is many a slip ‘twixt the cup and the lip. (jeez, does anybody say that anymore? ). It’s only natural that the women, the receiving and more vulnerable partner, is likely to get nervous and a bit scared. The unfamiliarity of it all, using different sexual positions than usual, combined with the mix of anal folklore and the sense of the taboo, is enough to make anybody nervous.
And, especially if you and your partner have gotten a little stale in bed, depending too often on the old reliable missionary position, to jump from that to a face in the bed ass in the air anal sex position is going to be a shock.
Shocked and nervous people are going top have a hard time relaxing the muscles in the anus and rectum. She is going to tighten up, it’s going to hurt a lot more than it should, and there goes your first (and last) anal experience.
Obviously the point I am trying to make here is that if you are smart you will start out by, before you ever mention anal sex, becoming more athletic and demanding in your regular sex lives. As you are fucking, try more positions, stop what you usually do, after doing a few minutes of it, and move her into a position you don’t ordinarily use. Fuck for a few minutes more, and then move her into an anal sex position, for example ordinary doggy style, or on her belly with a pillow or two under her hips. Fuck her hard in that position, and when you come, snuggle with her a bit more lovingly than usual so that she associates that type of sex with extra special loviness from you.
When the time comes for anal sex, and you move into a position she is familiar with and associates with good sex, the chances of her relaxing and loving it just shot thru the roof- just like your mind will when you come deep inside her bottom.
