Anal Sex Tips

There was a good comment on an earlier post, and both it and my reply are worth reading, take a look:

http://www.analsextips.net/how-to-use-sexual-lubrication-for-anal-sex.html

I’m always happy to respond to questions and comments, even if I haven’t posted anything lately, comments will be emailed to me, and I’ll try to get back with a reply in a day or two.

A lot of the time, when you are going to have anal sex, it’s kind of a surprise for your partner. (Unless you are both men, then, really, it’s never that big of a surprise) It’s something that happens in the heat of the moment, or at least it should appear that way to your girl, the anal fuckee. But, for you, the anal fucker, even tho it isn’t necessarily something you expect to happen, if you are like me, you are always at least a little bit aware that tonight could be the night to fuck her in the ass. So, while it’s a surprise for her, you need to give it some thought.

Why do you need to give it some thought? Listen, how many times have you heard a girl complain about anal sex? About the guy who tried it once, and it hurt, and she didn’t like it, and she doesn’t want to do it again? That, buddy, is the fucking reason you have to have your ducks in a row if you are thinking about getting her all hot and bothered and slipping your dick into her tight little backdoor.

What do you have to think about?

1. What is the state of her bowels? You _DO NOT_ want to surprise a girl with anal sex if she has a full stomach and possible a full colon. Women are very sensitive about the state of their bowels to begin with, and she is going to be pissed off if you are not also sensitive about it. So, for surprise anal sex, you want to pick a time when she has eaten lightly, and ideally, after she has had the chance to spend some time in the bathroom and taken a good shit.

2. Is the lube handy? How about the towels? Especially for surprise anal sex, when, probably, you are just going to push it into her, she won’t have much time to relax her bottom, so especially then you have got to go heavy on the lube.

3. Are you on her nice bed with the fancy sheets? Girls worry about these things. Do it in your bed.

4. Is she already relaxed and turned on? I’m telling you buddy, if you try to surprise her when she is not already at least a bit delerious from passion, you are asking for trouble. If you are going to try to surprise her by just popping it in, TAKE YOUR FUCKING TIME to get her juiced up first. Don’t mix it in with garden variety slam bam thank you mam fucking. Do it during one of those nights when you are giving her a real workout, when you are already going a bit more slowly, licking her pussy, playing with her asshole with your fingers, and in other ways really making love to her. Then, when you flip her over onto her stomach, with a pillow under her hips, and grab the lube and really lube up your cock, and press the tip of your cock against her anus, she’s just going to grab onto the sheets and say “Oh”, but she isn’t likely to say “No”.

In my experience, women, in the right state of being turned on, with a happy bowel, and not on their nice sheets, like a little anal surprise. Women like it when a man takes charge in the bedroom, they really, totally do.

One final tip – keep it short, and don’t go too deep. Your better off doing it for just a few minutes, with shallow strokes, and either coming fast, or stopping. I’ve had girls tell me, after I stopped during surpise anal, “You can put it back in, if you want to…”, but they always seem to appreciate that I’m concerned for their feelings and I’m not going to just pound away.

What’s So Great About Anal Sex?

Some time ago, when I was 19 years old, I was part of a conversation about anal sex that has often come back to my thoughts in the years since.

I was with two “older women”, women a bit less than 30 years old but still older women to me. The two were roomates, and I was eventually to become the long term boyfriend to one of them, but at that time I was just a boy toy for the two. We had had several threesomes together, a big deal for me but just a lark for them. As a natural consequence of the threesome thing, we tended to talk about fucking a lot. Well, actually, the two of them talked about it a lot, I mostly listened. As always happens when women talk a lot about fucking, eventually the talk got around to anal sex, past lovers who had been into anal sex, and men’s obsession with anal sex.

“Why are men so obsessed with fucking women in the ass?”, one asked the other, after telling tales of past anal experiences. “Oh, that’s simple,”, the other replied, “it’s because the ass is so much tighter!”. She went on to explain that her first lover, who had introduced her to anal, had told her that this was why he wanted her to give up her virgin asshole.

“Ahhhhh!”, said her friend, as tho a great cosmic truth had been revealed.

Now here’s the thing – as any man who has had a lot of anal experience can tell you – that’s not really true.

The tight ass is a kind of myth. The ass doesn’t have the kind of muscles that make for a tight fit – once beyond the rectum and the sphincter muscles, there are almost no muscles that can contract the gut and make for a tight fit around the penis. Once your partner has relaxed the muscles of the rectum, and allowed you fully, deeply into the ass, and entered what is for her (equally true if the partner is a him) the most intensely pleasureable part of the anal sex experience, the ass is significantly less tight than the vagina. (Which, by the way, does have sets of muscles that can grip the penis in a tight fit.)

Now, it is true that at the beginning of anal penetration, especially with a partner who is not experienced at relaxing and opening the muscles of the rectum, there is a period of _very_ pleasant tightness. Pleasant, at least, for the penetrator – this same period is always one of the least pleasant parts of the experience for the penetratee.

And, yes, oh definitely fucking yes, that period of tightness at the beginning of anal sex is fantastic. Especially when your partner has learned enough to let you in without panicing and getting tense, you can get a few minutes of velvety tight constriction around your cock.

But, it’s not going to last. Your partner will relax more and more, and you will be able to go deeper and deeper into her bottom. As you do, the fit will get looser.

Now, here is where the _great_ part of anal sex starts. What is so great about anal sex is not the tight fit. It is the total, body-shuddering, belly-moan-inducing, mind-blowing, whole body intensity of real anal pleasure for the woman when she has relaxed enough to take a real fucking with your whole cock all the way into her ass.

What is so great about anal sex is that you, the man, can see and feel and hear that for her the experience is so much better than vaginal sex that there is almost no comparison. That’s why men who love anal sex are so obsessed with it. Because it makes women go absolutely, frantically, screamingly insane with pleasure.

It’s all about power – the power to make a woman shout in ecstasy, even tho her best friend is in the next room and is listening to her moans; she can’t help it, because it feels so good.

It’s not always easy to get a woman to that point. It takes knowledge, skill, practice, patience, and the ability to keep from blowing your load in those first few minutes when she is so tight and complaining so sweetly that you are going too fast.

But once you experience that perfect anal sex when she lets you in completely and surrenders to pleasure, you will never forget it. And neither will she.