Anal Sex Tips

In the current installment of Katie’s World, the blond beauty writes about her experiences and love of anal sex. It’s Katie K at her most uninhibited. “I wanted to do a column that let’s people know about my deepest fantasies,” she explained. “Katie’s World is playful and fun, but is very erotic. I wanted to present something that was me, and that definitely comes across. I’m the type who likes to be glam and have fun, but is also very, very naughty.

http://news.avn.com/company-news/Katie-K-Pens-Katie-s-World-Column-for-Adult-Sport-Magazine-448577.html

When I first started writing about anal sex on the internet in 1999, one thing you almost never saw in any "established" media source was a mention of anal sex. It was a big taboo. Things have certainly changed, and a recent article in The Atlantic tells us why – the ready availability of porn made possibel by the internet.

And they are arguably right. Anal sex certainly wasn't invented by the internet, I personally was having nice anal sex with girlfriends and a wife before the idea of the internet was invented. But now, it's well known, and people can see for themselves on the internet that anal isn;t as horribel as the puritans among us would have us believe. And women can see that while, yes, it can hurt when done improperly, when done right it only hurts for a few seconds if at all, and then it starts to feel really damn good.

Here's a few snippets from the Atlantic article:

 But pervasive hard-core porn has allowed many people to flirt openly with practices that may have always been desired, but had been deeply buried under social restraint. Take anal sex: in a 1992 study that surveyed sexual behaviors, published by the University of Chicago, 20 percent of women ages 25 to 29 reported having anal sex. In a study published in October 2010 by the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University, the instances of anal sex reported by women in the same age cohort had more than doubled, to 46 percent. The practice has even made its way into the younger female demographic: the Indiana study shows 20 percent of 18- and 19-year-olds have had anal sex at least once.

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To take anal sex again, porn doesn’t plant that idea in men’s minds; instead, porn puts the power of a mass medium behind ancient male desires. Anal sex as a run-of-the-mill practice, de rigueur pubic waxing for girls—and their mothers—and first-date doggy-style encounters (this is but a small sampling of rapidly shifting sexual mores) have been popularized and legitimized by porn. Which means that men now have a far easier time broaching subjects once considered off- putting—for instance, suburban dads can offhandedly suggest anal sex to their bethonged, waxed wives.

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Hard-core porn, which is what Internet porn largely traffics in, is undoubtedly extreme. But how is sex, as a human experience, anything less than extreme? Not the kind of sex (or lack thereof) that occurs in marriages that double as domestic gulags. Or what 30-somethings do to each other in the second year of their “serious relationship.” But the sex that occurs in between relationships—or overlaps with relationships—where the buffers of intimacy or familiarity do not exist: the raw, unpracticed sort. If a woman thinks of the best sex she’s had in her life, she’s often thinking of this kind of sex, and while it may be the best sex in her life, it’s not the sex she wants to have throughout her life—or more accurately, it’s not the sex she’d have with the man with whom she’d like to spend her life. The manner in which one physically, and emotionally, contorts oneself for sex simply takes sex outside the realm of ordinary human experiences and places it in the extreme, often beyond our control. “Tamed as it may be, sexuality remains one of the demonic forces in human consciousness,” Susan Sontag wrote in Styles of Radical Will. Yes, it’s a natural, human function, and one from which both partners can derive enormous pleasure, but it is also one largely driven by brute male desire and therefore not at all free of violent, even cruel, urges.

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 in a moment of exasperation, he asked if we could have anal sex. I asked why, seeing as how any straight man who has had experience with anal sex knows that it’s a big production and usually has a lot of false starts and abrupt stops. He answered, almost without thought, “Because that’s the only thing that will make you uncomfortable.” This was, perhaps, the greatest moment of sexual honesty I’ve ever experienced—and without hesitation, I complied. This encounter proves an unpleasant fact that does not fit the feminist script on sexuality: pleasure and displeasure wrap around each other like two snakes.

http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2011/01/hard-core/8327/1/

Well, I paraphrase, lol.

But she does say that her experience taking it up the ass for over 11 years shows that alarmist propaganda about anal sex is nonsense that isn't supported by the medical facts.

http://news.avn.com/articles/Belladonna-to-Light-Up-the-Loveline-401884.html

Bella said she may take the opportunity to challenge Loveline host Dr. Drew Pinsky's stance against anal sex. (Pinsky memorably commented to Sasha Grey during her appearance on The Tyra Banks Show that if she continued performing anal in her movies she would be "wearing diapers by the time you're 30.")

"He does probably have a very valid reason for believing that, but I'm almost 30, I've been doing anal sex for 11 years, and that's not how I feel," Bella said. "I think the big misconception is that people think you're doing it all day long, and every time you do it, you're doing it with these massive, large things, and that's just not the case. And like anything you do, you have to prepare yourself for it. You won't just go do a scene like that without preparing your body for it. It's like an athlete—they don't go to the Olympics without training themselves for it. It'll be interesting to have a conversation with someone about it. But it'll be fun."

I have tried to find any examples of cases in which people who are having anal sex in the ways in which it is normally had have actually ended up with some kind of anal sphincter damage. Pretty much every "expert" warns against it, usually with some anecdote about some gay guy they heard about with "anal leakage".

But, it is quite hard to find any substantive medical studies or examples of a woman having normal anal sex reporting any kinds of problems. And you would think with all the rightwing obsession with anal sex and their paranoia about anal sex that they would be trumpeting any actual cases or studies far and wide thru every corner of the mediasphere.

Here's what the wiki says – notthat one should trust the wiki, but, still, here is what it says:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anal_sex#Physical_damage

Physical damage

Physical damage to the rectum and anus can manifest as generalized ano-rectal trauma, hemorrhoids, anal fissures,^[12] and rectal prolapse.^[78] An insufficient amount of lubricant can make it especially painful or injurious.^[79] Damage is more likely to occur if intercourse is forcible or aggressive or if alcohol or other drugs have dulled sensitivity.

Loss of control over the bowels, though rare according to some, is thought to be a valid concern^[80] and is reported to be caused by repeated injury, or by the insertion of large objects,^[81] or simply by regular anal sex, which "leads to internal sphincter dilation and soiling."^[82]

A 1993 study published in the Journal of the Royal Society of Medicine found that fourteen out of a sample of forty men receiving anal intercourse experienced episodes of frequent anal incontinence.^[83] However, a 1997 study published in the American Journal of Gastroenterology found no difference in levels of incontinence between homosexual men who engaged in anal sex and heterosexual men who did not, and criticized the earlier study for its inclusion of flatulence in its definition of incontinence.^[84]

Dr. Jack Morin recommended kegel exercises to prevent loss of muscle tone from anal fisting or insertion of large objects in a presentation of clinical aspects of anal sexuality, delivered at the 1998 joint conference of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality and the American Association of Sex Educators. He added, however, that he had never personally observed "loosening" in any of his patients^[85].

So, if anyone knows of any verified reports of anal damage from anal sex in women who have anal sex in a normal fashion (that is, women who are not prostitutes specializing in anal having it multiple times a day), please point me to that study.