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How to Delay Ejaculation

Friday, April 6th, 2012

Every guy in the world wants to be able to delay ejaculation, to fuck his partner for a long time. Not every time, you have to remember that (in my experience anyway) women often don’t really want “all night long” sex. It makes them sore, and increases the chance of bladder and yeast infections, which all women are concerned about. And, long, hard sex blows their mind, and there are plenty of times when women want to have a little sex without getting their minds blown. So, delaying ejaculation is something to use appropriately. Use this technique with care.

But, delaying the male orgasm is actually pretty easy, once you know the secret. When you do want to fuck the hell out of your girl, this is how you do it.

When you first enter her, a chain of stimulation starts, an ancient biological rythym that has one goal – to pump semen into her vagina as fast as possible. Your bodies natural penis stimulation hard wiring isn’t designed to give her a long hard fucking, it’s designed to get her pregnant. So, you have to short circuit the natural process, and push your nervous system into a different state, a state in which you stay hard for as long as you want without coming, and have to concentrate on pleasure in order to get yourself to ejaculate.

And, luckily enough, there is an easy way to short circuit the natural fast ejaculation, and it doesn’t involve anything complicated, and sure doesn’t involve concentrating on baseball scores or whatever other lame shit you see joked about on TV or in movies.

It’s just this – when you feel yourself beginning to approach the state in which you could have an orgasm, stop thrusting, and pull out of her. And now you have to wait, outside of her, not overly stimulating your cock, for between 90 seconds to 3 minutes.

And, here’s the real trick. There’s an easy way to do this, and work it into the natural rythym of having sex. Pull out of her, kiss her and rub her body, and then _change positions_. Changing positions, switching to doggy style, or side by side, or whatever new position seems like a good idea. The time you need to change positions is just about exactly the time needed to short circuit the natural penis excitation cycle. And there is something else, involving I think the shift in concentration and body sensation involved in moving into a new position, that blocks the quick ejaculation response. Usually, after doing this you will have your fuck time increased 4 to 8 times.

So, it’s the perfect sex trick. You pull out and change positions, which makes your lovemaking more interesting, playful, memorable, and mind blowing, and at the same time you extend the length of time you can fuck. And, when you have her all softened up and sexed up and mind blown from a long hard fuck, she is in the perfect state to start with anal play and anal sex.

You will need to experiment and practice wioth this a bit yourself. Every man’s body is slightly different, as is every man’s sexual cycles and triggers. But, the idea is sound, tested, and in one form or another has been a recommendation for delaying ejaculation in much of the advanced sexual literature, tantra, and the like around the world. Try it. It works like gangbusters.

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Don’t Use Anal Eze!

Sunday, January 8th, 2012

There was a good article by Tristan Taormino in her Pucker Up column recently, in which she mentions something that was important enough to bear repeating.

” Anal Eze and lubes like it contain benzocaine (or a similar ingredient), a topical anesthetic—think Ora-Gel for your butthole. They numb your butt so you can’t feel what’s going on; when you use them, you’re more likely to go farther or take something bigger in your ass than you’re ready for. The result: a sore ass, possible tearing and damage to the delicate lining of the anal canal and rectum, and pain—all things that won’t exactly make you want to rush right out and try anal sex again. Plus, on the off chance that the anal penetration is pleasurable, you won’t be able to feel that either.”

Tristan Taormino’s “Sensitive Spots”

She describes anal ease as her “archnemesis” – well, that’s giving it way too much credit. What it is, is a stupid product, don’t use it. It’s not even a particularly good lubricant, in my opinion, at least not the product I tried, maybe there are other versions or names that are better.

She argues against it because it numbs the girls insides and makes injuries, tearing, and discomfort more likely for her afterwards, and that’s probably true. I can’t say that for sure, because it didn’t do so the times that I tried it.

But one thing I do know, it fucks up the sensations of the experience, for her, and definitely for me, or for you, if you happen to be a male. Your dick gets numb, and mostly numb at the tip. You can’t feel her asshole sliding over your cock. Whoever fucking thought this was a good idea?

Some people say it delays ejaculation – well, damn straight it delays ejaculation – frankly, it was so annoying an effect I had to stop fucking and wait till that shit wore off.

It’s a waste of your money. Just get good lube, and practice using it, during regular sex, so it will just always be right at hand when the time for anal sex comes up.

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“Anal Sex 101″ from Dan Savage

Saturday, February 3rd, 2007

Dan Savage is a funny guy with one of the best sex advice colums being written today – and because he’s gay he understands anal sex far better than most people. He’s always worth reading. I get the Village Voice email edition just to read Savage every week.

He wrote a good entry called Anal Sex 101 last week, it’s your basic stuff, but fun to read, visit the link, you’ll enjoy it.

His second entry is about gay anal sex, so don’t read it if that kind of thing makes you nervous. Personally, I think his advice is 100% applicable to having anal with women, it’s the ‘hold still after she comes’ trick, and it’s pretty important to know.

Anal Sex 101 by Dan Savage

“Q: … I am now dating a woman whom I love intensely and who is open to anal sex, but we just can’t make it happen. Toys, fingering, eating ass, fucking—it all hurts her. She is a ballerina and therefore small with a tight frame. I know that you probably don’t have some super-secret gay-guy ass-sex trick, but is there a best plan of action here?”

“A: Toys, if they’re too big and ineptly employed, can hurt. Fingers, with their bony knuckles and sharp nails, can hurt. Fucking can hurt. But eating ass never hurt anyone. I mean, tongues and sparkling-clean buttholes go together like rama-lama-lama-ke-ding-a-de-ding-a-dong. So unless you’re wearing a diamond-encrusted grill or you studied eating ass under Jeffrey Dahmer, there are only three plausible explanations for this baffling assertion, listed here in ascending order of plausibility: (1) Your tongue is four feet long and it irritates her esophagus when you rim her….”

Some Good Info On Sex Lubes

Saturday, November 11th, 2006

Here’s a good article that covers some of the same things I’ve mentioned about anal sex lubes – worth a read.

This writer shares my dislike of benzocaine lubes like “Anal Eze” – they are more trouble than they are worth, both for you and for your partner. Just use a plain good quality lube.

http://www.analsextips.net/dont-use-anal-eze.html

http://www.analsextips.net/how-to-use-sexual-lubrication-for-anal-sex.html

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The Big “O” – Slick Advice

It’s important to consider what chemicals are in lube:

Before you get too excited by the thought of using peach or passion-fruit lube, you should know that flavored lube contains sugar, which can cause infection if used in the ass or vagina. Flavored lube is recommended for external use only.

Some lubes contain benzocaine, which numbs the anal walls to reduce pain. I recommend against using this type of lube for anal sex because it can cause harm to the anus and actually desensitize the pleasurable sensations of anal sex. You may not feel the pain in the moment, but you may later on. Ouch!

Lube containing nonoxynyl-9 is no longer recommended because new info suggests that N-9 may actually weaken the anal walls, making sex less safe.
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Silent Bob’s Anal Sex Primer

Friday, July 21st, 2006

Silent Bob’s Anal Sex Primer (and Picking Your Nose)

Here’s a really fun little article I came across by accident, which I really thought most guys into anal sex would enjoy reading, so go read it.

I don’t agree with a lot of the guys conclusions – basically, I think he’s being way too nice to his women, and that they would like a more dominant approach to ass fucking. But, still, it’s clearly an honest piece of writing, and I’m sure plenty of us will see something of ourselves in his experiences.

Oh yeah, I almost forgot! By the way, the author dude? He’s the real Silent Bob, from the movie Clerks and Jay and Silent Bob Strike Back, and the other fuckin hilarious Silent Bob and Jay movies.

From the article:

“The first time the concept of ass-fucking was introduced to me was via “The Final Conflictâ€? – the under-appreciated third entry in the original “Omenâ€? saga, starring Sam Neill as the now-adult Damien. He hooked up with this reporter lady, and at one point, they’re getting down. Suddenly, he flips the chick over and buries it, all evil-like, in her dumper. As an eleven year old without the benefit of an internet connection (or an internet, period), I was confused, to say the least. Sure – I knew about conventional sex (I used to shoplift “Hustlerâ€? from the local magazine store), but the horror in this woman’s eyes and the physical displeasure she was indicating spoke of some unforgivable act I wasn’t schooled in. I was watching the scene and imagining this dude’s sporting some kind of forked cock (I mean, he IS the devil), that’s got a hydra-like head that’s snapping at this poor lady’s snapper – hence all the crying. I turn to my brother and ask “What the hell’s going on, ya’ think?â€? And my brother explains that Damien’s getting all sorts of rectal with this chick.

“He’s putting it in her butt,� Brother Don tells me.
“Why?� I ask.
“Because he’s the devil. That’s what the devil does, I guess.�

Now, coming from a Catholic household and six years of Catholic school at this point, you’d imagine that’d be some kind of formative moment for both of us: like, from that moment forward, me and my brother would forever associate (or ASSociate) anal sex with Armageddon… The only Armageddon it introduced was my brother and I growing up to be like “Armageddon me some ass!â€? ”

Silent Bob’s Anal Sex Primer (and Picking Your Nose)

Anal Sex Lubrication Comment

Wednesday, April 19th, 2006

There was a good comment on an earlier post, and both it and my reply are worth reading, take a look:

http://www.analsextips.net/how-to-use-sexual-lubrication-for-anal-sex.html

I’m always happy to respond to questions and comments, even if I haven’t posted anything lately, comments will be emailed to me, and I’ll try to get back with a reply in a day or two.

Surprise Anal Sex

Thursday, April 6th, 2006

A lot of the time, when you are going to have anal sex, it’s kind of a surprise for your partner. (Unless you are both men, then, really, it’s never that big of a surprise) It’s something that happens in the heat of the moment, or at least it should appear that way to your girl, the anal fuckee. But, for you, the anal fucker, even tho it isn’t necessarily something you expect to happen, if you are like me, you are always at least a little bit aware that tonight could be the night to fuck her in the ass. So, while it’s a surprise for her, you need to give it some thought.

Why do you need to give it some thought? Listen, how many times have you heard a girl complain about anal sex? About the guy who tried it once, and it hurt, and she didn’t like it, and she doesn’t want to do it again? That, buddy, is the fucking reason you have to have your ducks in a row if you are thinking about getting her all hot and bothered and slipping your dick into her tight little backdoor.

What do you have to think about?

1. What is the state of her bowels? You _DO NOT_ want to surprise a girl with anal sex if she has a full stomach and possible a full colon. Women are very sensitive about the state of their bowels to begin with, and she is going to be pissed off if you are not also sensitive about it. So, for surprise anal sex, you want to pick a time when she has eaten lightly, and ideally, after she has had the chance to spend some time in the bathroom and taken a good shit.

2. Is the lube handy? How about the towels? Especially for surprise anal sex, when, probably, you are just going to push it into her, she won’t have much time to relax her bottom, so especially then you have got to go heavy on the lube.

3. Are you on her nice bed with the fancy sheets? Girls worry about these things. Do it in your bed.

4. Is she already relaxed and turned on? I’m telling you buddy, if you try to surprise her when she is not already at least a bit delerious from passion, you are asking for trouble. If you are going to try to surprise her by just popping it in, TAKE YOUR FUCKING TIME to get her juiced up first. Don’t mix it in with garden variety slam bam thank you mam fucking. Do it during one of those nights when you are giving her a real workout, when you are already going a bit more slowly, licking her pussy, playing with her asshole with your fingers, and in other ways really making love to her. Then, when you flip her over onto her stomach, with a pillow under her hips, and grab the lube and really lube up your cock, and press the tip of your cock against her anus, she’s just going to grab onto the sheets and say “Oh”, but she isn’t likely to say “No”.

In my experience, women, in the right state of being turned on, with a happy bowel, and not on their nice sheets, like a little anal surprise. Women like it when a man takes charge in the bedroom, they really, totally do.

One final tip – keep it short, and don’t go too deep. Your better off doing it for just a few minutes, with shallow strokes, and either coming fast, or stopping. I’ve had girls tell me, after I stopped during surpise anal, “You can put it back in, if you want to…”, but they always seem to appreciate that I’m concerned for their feelings and I’m not going to just pound away.

What’s So Great About Anal Sex?

Wednesday, December 21st, 2005

What’s So Great About Anal Sex?

Some time ago, when I was 19 years old, I was part of a conversation about anal sex that has often come back to my thoughts in the years since.

I was with two “older women”, women a bit less than 30 years old but still older women to me. The two were roomates, and I was eventually to become the long term boyfriend to one of them, but at that time I was just a boy toy for the two. We had had several threesomes together, a big deal for me but just a lark for them. As a natural consequence of the threesome thing, we tended to talk about fucking a lot. Well, actually, the two of them talked about it a lot, I mostly listened. As always happens when women talk a lot about fucking, eventually the talk got around to anal sex, past lovers who had been into anal sex, and men’s obsession with anal sex.

“Why are men so obsessed with fucking women in the ass?”, one asked the other, after telling tales of past anal experiences. “Oh, that’s simple,”, the other replied, “it’s because the ass is so much tighter!”. She went on to explain that her first lover, who had introduced her to anal, had told her that this was why he wanted her to give up her virgin asshole.

“Ahhhhh!”, said her friend, as tho a great cosmic truth had been revealed.

Now here’s the thing – as any man who has had a lot of anal experience can tell you – that’s not really true.

The tight ass is a kind of myth. The ass doesn’t have the kind of muscles that make for a tight fit – once beyond the rectum and the sphincter muscles, there are almost no muscles that can contract the gut and make for a tight fit around the penis. Once your partner has relaxed the muscles of the rectum, and allowed you fully, deeply into the ass, and entered what is for her (equally true if the partner is a him) the most intensely pleasureable part of the anal sex experience, the ass is significantly less tight than the vagina. (Which, by the way, does have sets of muscles that can grip the penis in a tight fit.)

Now, it is true that at the beginning of anal penetration, especially with a partner who is not experienced at relaxing and opening the muscles of the rectum, there is a period of _very_ pleasant tightness. Pleasant, at least, for the penetrator – this same period is always one of the least pleasant parts of the experience for the penetratee.

And, yes, oh definitely fucking yes, that period of tightness at the beginning of anal sex is fantastic. Especially when your partner has learned enough to let you in without panicing and getting tense, you can get a few minutes of velvety tight constriction around your cock.

But, it’s not going to last. Your partner will relax more and more, and you will be able to go deeper and deeper into her bottom. As you do, the fit will get looser.

Now, here is where the _great_ part of anal sex starts. What is so great about anal sex is not the tight fit. It is the total, body-shuddering, belly-moan-inducing, mind-blowing, whole body intensity of real anal pleasure for the woman when she has relaxed enough to take a real fucking with your whole cock all the way into her ass.

What is so great about anal sex is that you, the man, can see and feel and hear that for her the experience is so much better than vaginal sex that there is almost no comparison. That’s why men who love anal sex are so obsessed with it. Because it makes women go absolutely, frantically, screamingly insane with pleasure.

It’s all about power – the power to make a woman shout in ecstasy, even tho her best friend is in the next room and is listening to her moans; she can’t help it, because it feels so good.

It’s not always easy to get a woman to that point. It takes knowledge, skill, practice, patience, and the ability to keep from blowing your load in those first few minutes when she is so tight and complaining so sweetly that you are going too fast.

But once you experience that perfect anal sex when she lets you in completely and surrenders to pleasure, you will never forget it. And neither will she.