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Understanding the new study about anal lube and how it may increase the chance of STD transmission

Saturday, June 26th, 2010

I have to apologize for not writing about the anal lube study story earlier than this, I was busy with stuff and while I was reading all about it just didn;t get the time to blog.

Anyway, here's the quick summary – a recent study demonstrated the POSSIBILITY that most of the lubes we use for anal sex, including my favorite astroglide and second favorite KY liguid, may increase the chance of transmission of HIV/AIDS, hepatitis, and other viral STDs. The effect has to be confirmed with studies of actual people, as I understand it.

The effect is caused by the salt properties of the water based lubes – they change the salt concentration against the cell walls causing the cell walls to be damaged and become more porous.

The study did not test silicone lubes, so no news on wether silicone anal lubes are better or worse.

The only lube that did not have this salt effect was one designed for women who wnat to get pregnant – a lube called Pre – which is chemically balanced to mimic the human bodys salt concentrations.

I think we can expect the major lube brands to offer new more expensive "safer" lubes this next year.

About.com had the best article I found on this new study and it's implications – so go read it.

http://sexuality.about.com/b/2010/05/31/understanding-new-research-on-lubricant-use-during-anal-intercourse.htm

The overall purpose of the study was to see if lubricant might play a role in increasing risk of STD transmission during anal intercourse. To this end, the researchers wanted to understand what, if any, direct damage lubricants might have on rectal and cervical tissue. They also wanted to see how the lubricants might impact healthy bacteria that are present in the rectum. There are, of course, many ways to damage rectal tissue. In this study the researchers focused on one particular effect which can damage the tissue in the rectum essentially by drying up cells, causing them to die and slough off. This can happen if the lubricant being used has higher concentrations of salts and sugars than are found in the skin cells it comes in contact with. The lubricant can draw water out of the cells, resulting in damage that can increase risk of infection (the science minded among you can find more detailed explanations here, here, or here).

They found that the four water based lubricants that had higher concentrations of salt (Astroglide, Elbow Grease, ID Glide, and K-Y Jelly) did in fact damage the outer layer of skin cells of the rectal and cervical tissue whereas the silicone lubricant and the water based Pre lubricant did not. In terms of how the lubricants impacted the healthy bacteria, they found that both Astroglide and KY Jelly had a negative effect (KY much worse than Astroglide) and that the other lubricants did not have a toxic effect.

A second study looked at the use of lubricants during anal intercourse outside the laboratory. This study included 229 men who had reported having receptive anal intercourse in the past month, and 192 women who reported having receptive anal intercourse in the past year. Participants completed a computer assisted self-interview about sexual behavior. Among other things, participants were asked about use (or non-use) of lubricants and the particular brands they used during anal sex. From that group, 302 participants also had rectal tests for chlamydia and gonorrhea. Most of the participants reported using lubricant the last time they had receptive anal intercourse. Of the 302 participants, 25 tested positive for an anal STD. More than two-thirds of the people diagnosed with an STD reported using lube the last time they had receptive anal intercourse, compared with one third of people who had not used a lube. Read another way, people who reported using lubricants the last time they had anal sex were about twice as likely to have chlamydia or gonorrhea as those who did not use lubricants.

Taken together, these two papers seem to be suggesting that using lubricants, or at least some kinds of lubricants, might actually be a bad idea when you're on the receiving end of anal intercourse. And if you listen to the press conference that followed the presentation of the data, it sounds like at least some of the researchers are comfortable interpreting this very early data with some significance.

But don't put away that lube bottle just yet (and probably you won't be putting it away ever). Remember that collecting data, interpreting it, and reporting on it are three very different activities. While some blog posts have suggested this is radical news, consider the fact that all of the reporting from the researchers themselves and from IRMA makes it clear that this is very preliminary research, and should be interpreted as such. It's actually the first research of it's kind, and it involved sample sizes too small to draw any significant conclusions from. It raises far more questions than it answers. Here are just a few:

The clinical study of people based on recall of past anal intercourse wasn't able to take into account which lubricants were used. Participants reported using many different kinds of lubricants across encounters, sometimes combining different lubricants in a given sexual encounter. If, as the laboratory study suggests, some lubes are better than others, we need to figure out which ones are better, and do they need to be used every time, in full concentration, to be "safer"?

I think it's interesting that some people are saying this study means anal sex is "better" without a lube – that seems problematic, considering the possible physical chafing. But I have said before here that human saliva, good old spit, makes a surprising good anal lube, if you can generate enough of it.

So, we may see a resurgence of anal spit lube, lol.

What we can learn about (anal) sex from Tiger Woods – more psych today blahblahblah

Tuesday, June 22nd, 2010

Mostly what the psychology today blogs say about anal sex is borderline garnage. The rest is usually complete garbage.

So seeing psychology today tackle the subject of ass2mouth, using Tiger Woods as a dead horse to beat, one expects the usual.

Psych today does not dissapoint:

Switching from anal to oral is risky. Also according to the text messages, Tiger allegedly wanted to go from anal to oral with someone. This anal-oral switching potentially carries risks of various viruses, so not a great idea (fecal matter is not exactly clean stuff). If you want to try this safely, use a new condom for anal sex, then take it off afterwards, and make sure the penis is clean before you transition to oral. If you’re concerned about infection, use a new condom for anal and then another new condom for oral.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-pleasures-sex/201006/what-we-can-learn-about-sex-tiger-woods-0

All true enough, FWIW. It just completely ignores the erotic power of ass to mouth, which has become a staple of anal porn movies.

How do all those porn girls do it?

1. They use enemas and eat little to nothing for 24 hours before the shoot to clean out their colon as much as possible. They also sometimes use laxatives. This leaves their rectum and colon as poop free as possible. They take several enemas just before the shoot, well, about an hour before.

2. A porn secret is that lots of porn girls are on heavy doses of antibiotics, which supposedly makes ttheir pussies taste great, and leaves their bowels much cleaner than average.

Still, that cock popping out of their ass probably doesn't smell and taste all that great. Anyone who has done anal sex knows that there is an earthy smell involved – and that some shit is to be expected in certain situations, and the skilled assfucker has paper towels and disinfectant wipes handy nearby, and NEVER, EVER makes a fuss over a little shit.

Never embarrass a girl by being shitphobic if you expect her to lift up her ass and let you fuck her there.

Coed asks “How can I make anal sex not painful?”

Thursday, May 20th, 2010

Those frisky anal coeds are at it again – promising the boyfriend a ride down the hershey highway for a birthday present, and needing advice on how to make anal sex less painful. Girls girls girls – let me just say that anal sex is the best birthday present, and bless you for giving your man a memory he will have forever.

Anyways, as happens often here at anal sex tips, anothe university paper is discussing anal pain, so take a quick hit of this link and read the brilliant advice, lol…

And it's actually not bad advice, the author seems to know about the "5 minute trick". which is, push your cock in THEN DONT MOVE, dont thrust, until she relaxes which usually will take 3 to 5 minutes of holding and kissing and stroking her body with your hands without doing much moving of your hips and cock. So go read it.

Dear Sandy,

My boyfriend has been asking me to have anal sex for a while now, and I decided that I would give him anal sex for his birthday in a couple of weeks. I’m getting nervous, and I don’t know what to expect. What can I do to make it more comfortable and less painful?

-Birthday Sex

Dear Birthday Sex,

First, make sure you’re actually okay with doing this before you get into it. If it’s something that you’re not comfortable with, you shouldn’t do it just to make your boyfriend happy. If he truly cares about you, he will understand that it is something that is not only uncomfortable, but also potentially painful for you.

With that said, if this is something that you’re open to exploring, there are several ways to make this experiment fun for the both of you. The first thing to remember is that lubrication is crucial. If you’re not a frequent luber, go together to pick up a few different kinds so you can test them out.

The second thing to keep in mind is that you’re going to need to take it pretty slow the first time. The muscle, or the sphincter, has to be relaxed in order to make it satisfying for you so you’ve got to allow yourself to get used to having something there. Start by having your boyfriend go in, but tell him not to begin thrusting. Give your muscles a few minutes to relax then you can start going for it — just make sure to keep it slow and work your way up in intensity! If you need to start with baby steps, you can have him start by inserting a finger before moving on to bigger plans.

http://www.newuniversity.org/2010/04/features/intimate-inquiry/

Anal Sex Lubes and Lubricants

Tuesday, May 11th, 2010

Anal Sex Lubricants

My personal favorite lubricant is Astroglide, and luckily this very fine sex lube is usually commonly available, certainly my local Wal-Mart always has it, alongside the condoms and the spermicides. (note: now many stores carry a good selection of sexual lubrication products, more than when I first wrote this particular article. And, for what it's worth, my personal favorite kube is now KY Warming Liquid.)

Vitamin E oil is also very nice, the kind that they sell in little plastic bottles in the herbs and supplements and vitamins section of  Wal-Mart and similar types of stores. Vitamin E oil is messier, in my experience.

I've also used coconut oil, but that is a little esoteric. Solid when it's cold, it warms quickly and becomes a clear light nice smelling oil.

There's a good argument for not using oily lubricants, including natural oils including Vitamin E and cocunut oil, and baby oils, mineral oils, vaseline, and the like, which is that the oily substance is harder for the body to expel and may harbor or support certain kinds of bacterial infections.

Altho, I didn't encounter any problems the few times that I used them. It's just that the "real" sex lubricants like astroglide and the newer sex lubes like KY liquid and KY warming, are so much better, easier to use, easier to clean up, slippery, and in every way preferable.

Oily lubes are also more likely, in my experience, to "foam" during the strokes in and out, which can be a little messy, and sometimes embarrasses the girl, which is understandable (so remember to have some soft paper towels or strong tissues handy to control the mess.). Some mess, and some shit, is a natural part of many, and realistically of most, anal sex eperiences, but choosing a good quality lube which is very slick and not too messy is one of the wisest moves you can make if you want your female partner to enjoy anal fucking.

Astroglide is also superior hand job lube. My babe likes to use it to jerk me off.

Vaseline is surprisingly bad as an anal lube – I say surprisingly because I guess it's been around much longer so it has a real history of use for anal sex. However, it is stickier than it should be, causing more unpleasent and sometimes painful suctions and other effects, it foams a bit, it's quite hard to clean up, and it drips afterwards for quite a while- I used to use it in earlier years but never liked it, and switched to the medical KY jelly as soon as I discovered it. KY jelly, of course, has been replaced by the modern lubes.

Get some bottles of sexual lubes, practice using them, and keep them handy in the areas where you usually have sex. Use them for regular vaginal sex so that you and your partner get some experience with them. Oh, and keep some clean cloth handtowels or at least some papertowels nearby too, sex lubes and hand towels are natural partners, and besides, chicks seem to dig the cloth handtowel effect, and they'll really appreciate having some at hand during and after any kind of sex.