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Don’t Use Anal Eze!

Sunday, January 8th, 2012

There was a good article by Tristan Taormino in her Pucker Up column recently, in which she mentions something that was important enough to bear repeating.

” Anal Eze and lubes like it contain benzocaine (or a similar ingredient), a topical anesthetic—think Ora-Gel for your butthole. They numb your butt so you can’t feel what’s going on; when you use them, you’re more likely to go farther or take something bigger in your ass than you’re ready for. The result: a sore ass, possible tearing and damage to the delicate lining of the anal canal and rectum, and pain—all things that won’t exactly make you want to rush right out and try anal sex again. Plus, on the off chance that the anal penetration is pleasurable, you won’t be able to feel that either.”

Tristan Taormino’s “Sensitive Spots”

She describes anal ease as her “archnemesis” – well, that’s giving it way too much credit. What it is, is a stupid product, don’t use it. It’s not even a particularly good lubricant, in my opinion, at least not the product I tried, maybe there are other versions or names that are better.

She argues against it because it numbs the girls insides and makes injuries, tearing, and discomfort more likely for her afterwards, and that’s probably true. I can’t say that for sure, because it didn’t do so the times that I tried it.

But one thing I do know, it fucks up the sensations of the experience, for her, and definitely for me, or for you, if you happen to be a male. Your dick gets numb, and mostly numb at the tip. You can’t feel her asshole sliding over your cock. Whoever fucking thought this was a good idea?

Some people say it delays ejaculation – well, damn straight it delays ejaculation – frankly, it was so annoying an effect I had to stop fucking and wait till that shit wore off.

It’s a waste of your money. Just get good lube, and practice using it, during regular sex, so it will just always be right at hand when the time for anal sex comes up.

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Why men need to cheat on their women

Sunday, January 8th, 2012

Men know why – there's this dammed thing in our brains that says our worth as a man is measured by the the number of women we have fucked, and our ability to seduce new women. It's some ancient veldt thing, for when you might run into strange pussy a few times a year – your genetic worth as  aman is determined by wether you can get strange pussy to get wet and put that wet on your dick.

It kinda sucks. We love you like cazy – but that thing in our brains says we are worthless if we can't prove our veldt virility by banging a little on the side.

Here's some stuff on it – read up and get one guys thoughts on why men need to cheat on their wives, or girlfreinds or what have you.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/vicki-larson/why-men-need-to-cheat_b_1170015.html

The men in your study experienced a sharp decrease in the frequency and enjoyment of sex after two monogamous years. Since no one can sustain the kind of thrilling sex couples have in the beginning of a relationship, isn't it a healthy thing that it decreases?

I wish young men got two years of good sex before it dropped off; it's a lot less than that! It may, however, be good that the sexual desire for one's partner weans; it means that we end up staying with our long-term partners for the socioemotional connection and not for the sex. If a couple is going to raise a family, it is the emotional connection that counts, not the sexual.

Our physical desires don't die; they just change from our partner to people other than him/her. We falsely believe that when the sex dies, the relationship has also died. The reality is the opposite; when the sex dies the relationship has just begun.

What about the idea that long-term relationships make sex become deeper, more intimate and more meaningful?

The diminution of sex is simultaneous to one's emotional bonds growing stronger. Long-term partners may have more intimate sex (most just have very little) but when men see a guy or girl who turns them on, it's not intimate and meaningful sex they are craving.

Yoga pants, tight butts, camel toes, and viewing the vagina

Saturday, November 19th, 2011

Not anal – just endearing…

"And it is an embarrassment and awkwardness fraught with mixed emotions. There are an abundance of very attrac­tive women on campus and, I must admit, I don't think yoga pants are all bad. Yoga pants make butts look good, and I can't truly blame you yoga-pant wearers for wanting to flaunt. Part of me is, at heart, a yoga pants fan.

But the rest of me stubbornly objects. I can't help but feel that women who wear yoga pants have a false modesty that says, "I want to show off my body, but I am too embarrassed to be overtly sexual, so I will just wear skin-tight, curve-revealing clothing to satisfy my exhibitionist desires in socially acceptable means."

There's nothing wrong with personal empowerment, but there is something phony about the way women seem to do it by wearing yoga pants.

I get the sense that women wear yoga pants to feel sexy without getting judged as a slut, yet I see something demeaning in women wear­ing yoga pants and parading around their half-silhouetted vaginas all day."

you are wearing attire that is so skin-tight and so form-fitting that I can see your vagina.

So ladies – keep wearing those yoga pants!

Article about Spanking and Being Spanked

Wednesday, November 22nd, 2006

There’s a few nice but small photos of a spanked ass and “spank me” panties in this recent article by a female spanking lover from the Village Voice.

In my experience a lot of the people who like anal sex also like spanking. I sure as fuck do. I don’t think I can trukly feel love for a woman untill I’ve spanked her. That might be a bit of an exaggeration, but one thing os for sure, and that is sharing the spanking experience is just an intense an emotional bonding as anal sex itself.

http://www.villagevoice.com/people/0647,bussel,75065,24.html

“Nothing makes me wetter than bending over in preparation for a hard spanking. Well, nothing except the actual feeling of a hand forcefully swatting my ass cheeks, again and again. Most people associate spankings with either celebration or punishment, but you don’t need to be a birthday boy or bad girl to enjoy being paddled. Some of us simply need it, and take my word, it’s as pleasurable for the spanker as it is for the spankee. Just thinking about it turns me on, and I’m not the only one. ”

“Spades got her first taste of spanking from a boyfriend at 19. “He grabbed me by the right arm and put me over his lap and spanked me really hard,” she wrote in one entry. “I had no idea this hurt so much. I began to cry from the pain and thought that possibly crying would make him stop, but I was incorrect and the spanking continued.” The experience left Katie with a “throbbing bottom” and teary eyes, but it also kick-started a true obsession. Even as she struggled through the spanking—half-wanting it to end—she realized “this was what I had been missing all this time.”

Some Good Info On Sex Lubes

Saturday, November 11th, 2006

Here’s a good article that covers some of the same things I’ve mentioned about anal sex lubes – worth a read.

This writer shares my dislike of benzocaine lubes like “Anal Eze” – they are more trouble than they are worth, both for you and for your partner. Just use a plain good quality lube.

http://www.analsextips.net/dont-use-anal-eze.html

http://www.analsextips.net/how-to-use-sexual-lubrication-for-anal-sex.html

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The Big “O” – Slick Advice

It’s important to consider what chemicals are in lube:

Before you get too excited by the thought of using peach or passion-fruit lube, you should know that flavored lube contains sugar, which can cause infection if used in the ass or vagina. Flavored lube is recommended for external use only.

Some lubes contain benzocaine, which numbs the anal walls to reduce pain. I recommend against using this type of lube for anal sex because it can cause harm to the anus and actually desensitize the pleasurable sensations of anal sex. You may not feel the pain in the moment, but you may later on. Ouch!

Lube containing nonoxynyl-9 is no longer recommended because new info suggests that N-9 may actually weaken the anal walls, making sex less safe.
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It’s Just a Little Round Hole that Needs Love…

Saturday, September 9th, 2006

A good little article about anal sex in the LAist “Living in Sin” column – worth reading. It starts with the classic story:

My boyfriend is dying to get me to try anal sex… …how dirty is anal sex? Doesn’t your anus carry a ton of bacteria since your poop comes out of there? “.
To which the author, “Jen Sincero” replies:

“it’s hardly less sanitary than gobbling up wieners, balls, pussies, feet or even tongues – if you want to talk germs, let’s talk about how filthy mouths are. And hands! Lord only knows what those things have collected during a day. Sex is messy, people, yet the butt is dubbed the dirty bird. I hope this new knowledge will help you embrace your little friend down there, because, believe you me, it has a lot to offer in the pleasure department.”

But read the whole thing, it’s a fun little article.

It’s just a little round hole that needs love…

Anal Sex Lubrication Comment

Wednesday, April 19th, 2006

There was a good comment on an earlier post, and both it and my reply are worth reading, take a look:

http://www.analsextips.net/how-to-use-sexual-lubrication-for-anal-sex.html

I’m always happy to respond to questions and comments, even if I haven’t posted anything lately, comments will be emailed to me, and I’ll try to get back with a reply in a day or two.

Surprise Anal Sex

Thursday, April 6th, 2006

A lot of the time, when you are going to have anal sex, it’s kind of a surprise for your partner. (Unless you are both men, then, really, it’s never that big of a surprise) It’s something that happens in the heat of the moment, or at least it should appear that way to your girl, the anal fuckee. But, for you, the anal fucker, even tho it isn’t necessarily something you expect to happen, if you are like me, you are always at least a little bit aware that tonight could be the night to fuck her in the ass. So, while it’s a surprise for her, you need to give it some thought.

Why do you need to give it some thought? Listen, how many times have you heard a girl complain about anal sex? About the guy who tried it once, and it hurt, and she didn’t like it, and she doesn’t want to do it again? That, buddy, is the fucking reason you have to have your ducks in a row if you are thinking about getting her all hot and bothered and slipping your dick into her tight little backdoor.

What do you have to think about?

1. What is the state of her bowels? You _DO NOT_ want to surprise a girl with anal sex if she has a full stomach and possible a full colon. Women are very sensitive about the state of their bowels to begin with, and she is going to be pissed off if you are not also sensitive about it. So, for surprise anal sex, you want to pick a time when she has eaten lightly, and ideally, after she has had the chance to spend some time in the bathroom and taken a good shit.

2. Is the lube handy? How about the towels? Especially for surprise anal sex, when, probably, you are just going to push it into her, she won’t have much time to relax her bottom, so especially then you have got to go heavy on the lube.

3. Are you on her nice bed with the fancy sheets? Girls worry about these things. Do it in your bed.

4. Is she already relaxed and turned on? I’m telling you buddy, if you try to surprise her when she is not already at least a bit delerious from passion, you are asking for trouble. If you are going to try to surprise her by just popping it in, TAKE YOUR FUCKING TIME to get her juiced up first. Don’t mix it in with garden variety slam bam thank you mam fucking. Do it during one of those nights when you are giving her a real workout, when you are already going a bit more slowly, licking her pussy, playing with her asshole with your fingers, and in other ways really making love to her. Then, when you flip her over onto her stomach, with a pillow under her hips, and grab the lube and really lube up your cock, and press the tip of your cock against her anus, she’s just going to grab onto the sheets and say “Oh”, but she isn’t likely to say “No”.

In my experience, women, in the right state of being turned on, with a happy bowel, and not on their nice sheets, like a little anal surprise. Women like it when a man takes charge in the bedroom, they really, totally do.

One final tip – keep it short, and don’t go too deep. Your better off doing it for just a few minutes, with shallow strokes, and either coming fast, or stopping. I’ve had girls tell me, after I stopped during surpise anal, “You can put it back in, if you want to…”, but they always seem to appreciate that I’m concerned for their feelings and I’m not going to just pound away.