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The controversy over fifth base

Well, scallywag and vagabond did a followup article to that piece, entitled, amusingly enough:

Anal sex. How it suddenly became the grim reaper that women are now forced to exact at the mercy of leery men.

A good read, click the link, you'll enjoy it I think. Not long, not sophisticated, the counterarguments and true enough but a bit weak and definitely unsupported. But go ahead, read it, it's part of anal culture now.

And the author left out something very important, which I will mention after the snippet.

Here's some snippets:

Really? Men are wishing to perform anal sex to subjugate a woman? To make her unhappy? To assert their own power? If this were the case I would dare think that instead of a general trend of more anal sex in society it would be the other way round- less anal sex as women realized it was both uncomfortable and demeaning to them. But the trends suggest otherwise, rather it suggests that men and women are more open to such affairs and that we only proceed with them because we are consenting adults who ultimately wish to please our partners as much as we aim to please ourselves.

I think his talk of mutual pleasure seeking and a new culture of sexual exploration is accurate enough, as far as it goes.

But, anal sex does have elements of domination and subjugation in it. Thats what makes it hot.

Here's the part that gets left out – for the people that like it, anal sex is the most incredibly bonding of sex acts that a couple is likely to experience. Even a bad anal experience can be immensely bonding. Frankly it never fails to make me feel incredibly close to a woman, to feel more trust in her, to feel that mushy in love feeling EVEN IF I"VE BEEN WITH HER FOR YEARS.

This is one of teh secrets of anal sex – it makes the man a fucking mushball of love and oxytocin bonding afterwards. It;s not JUST about domination, it's about the feelings of intimacy and yes, love, that come after the shared experience of domination and subjugation, the shared experience of anal sex and anal contact.

Now, this is probably not true for all people – you know, the old theories of tit men and ass men and oral or anal fixations, maybe theres soem truth to it, and for another emotional-sexual "type" anal sex wouldn't trigger that intense bonding. That's something for future sex researcher sto discover.

But – we are discussing anal sex at all right now because it's still the taboo hole – our society is obsessed with anal sex and forbidding anal sex – meaning that perhaps anal is the taboo that triggers bonding for a lot of folks – and fear of pleasure and inappropriate bonding in others.

Girls, something to think about – he wants you asshole in hopes of having something special with you, at the very least, of having a memory that never fades.

” Anal Eze and lubes like it contain benzocaine (or a similar ingredient), a topical anesthetic—think Ora-Gel for your butthole. They numb your butt so you can’t feel what’s going on; when you use them, you’re more likely to go farther or take something bigger in your ass than you’re ready for. The result: a sore ass, possible tearing and damage to the delicate lining of the anal canal and rectum, and pain—all things that won’t exactly make you want to rush right out and try anal sex again. Plus, on the off chance that the anal penetration is pleasurable, you won’t be able to feel that either.”

Tristan Taormino’s “Sensitive Spots”

She describes anal ease as her “archnemesis” – well, that’s giving it way too much credit. What it is, is a stupid product, don’t use it. It’s not even a particularly good lubricant, in my opinion, at least not the product I tried, maybe there are other versions or names that are better.

She argues against it because it numbs the girls insides and makes injuries, tearing, and discomfort more likely for her afterwards, and that’s probably true. I can’t say that for sure, because it didn’t do so the times that I tried it.

But one thing I do know, it fucks up the sensations of the experience, for her, and definitely for me, or for you, if you happen to be a male. Your dick gets numb, and mostly numb at the tip. You can’t feel her asshole sliding over your cock. Whoever fucking thought this was a good idea?

Some people say it delays ejaculation – well, damn straight it delays ejaculation – frankly, it was so annoying an effect I had to stop fucking and wait till that shit wore off.

It’s a waste of your money. Just get good lube, and practice using it, during regular sex, so it will just always be right at hand when the time for anal sex comes up.

Here’s some free anal porn for ya!

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Take, for example, the latest data on anal sex. According to the National Survey of Family Growth, which surveyed thousands of people between the ages of 15 and 44 in 2006-2008, anal sex is really popular with heterosexuals. 44 percent of straight men report having anal sex at least once in their lives, and 36 percent of straight women do too.

Sabotage Times – funny name!

http://www.sabotagetimes.com/life/20-sex-tips-for-women/

11. Look, we can’t tell if you like anal or not, so when we timorously move our fingers then tongue towards the, erm, grey area just a quick ‘mmm’ or ‘GET THE FUCK OFF’ will do. We won’t take it personally.

"Grey area"? Jesus Christ dude, strap on a pair.