Guy’s who are interested in having anal sex also like to watch anal porn movies. It’s only natural, in fact, anal sex movies are one of the easiest and safest ways to satisfy the desire for anal sex.
But, everything you see in almost every anal sex movie is wrong, wrong, wrong! If you do the same thing to your sweetie you can kiss her ass goodbye, because you are going to hurt and scare her, and she is going to associate anal with discomfort, pain, and YOU being a major league ASSHOLE.
You can see it, cystal clear, in 90 percent of the anal movies ever made. Some hunk slams his cock up the anal starlets asshole without lube, and starts jackhammering away. The expression on her face is one of pain, and she puts her hand up to try and get him to slow down, but he ignores her plea. She never really starts to enjoy it, she just wants to get it over with, and in her mind, and on her face, you can see her thoughts – “At least I’m getting paid. OUCH, you fuckwad, that FUCKING HURTS!”.
Never, ever, ever do what that dipshit porn actor is doing! Nothing is more certain to destroy your sweetie’s trust, and put the fucking hammer down on your chances of turning her on to the possibility of including anal in your sexual adventures.
Now, some women, when they are quite anally experienced, can relax their sphinter muscles quickly, and take a cock quickly. But these are the exception, not the rule, and they are really very rare. The chances that your sweetiepie has this ability are between slim and none, so, for pete’s sake, don’t make that newbie mistake.
Now, rarely, you will see in an anal porn movie something that is worth remembering and trying and using. Certain positions, certain types of strokes, certain tricks used by the most experienced porn actors are effective, and I will talk about them in future tips.
Oh, and you anal porn movie directors – GET A FUCKING CLUE! We’re not so stupid that we can’t tell the difference between an actress who is actually enjoying the analsex and one who is totally faking the whole thing for the sake of getting the shot over with. As an anal porn viewer, I look for the real thing, and I like to see a guy take his time to do it right.
I have a few questions. I’ve read some of your old websites… that’s how I found this. It seems like some of your views have changed reading your blogs. It seems like you were a little more into roughness and domination on your other webpages… from the kind of porn you showcased to the things you said ie: you said something like if you’re into chicks with a cock 1/8 into their asses and smiling this page isn’t for you. For example on your tips site you say to take charge or she’ll never let you in her ass… it sounds like your gf is in charge from your other blogs on this page… and what’s with liking the warming lube… i thought a woman’s complaint that the lube was cold turned you on lol. Anyway, just asking since I’m curious since i liked your anal sex tip and the anal destruction website you featured. Have you mellowed?
Hi Billy, thanks for the comment. You know, all that stuff I have said in the past about dominance and mental attitude is still just as true as it ever was. I was going to talk quite a bit more about this in the future, because, really, it’s the mental aspect of anal sex that is the real thrill of it, both for the fucker and the fuckee.
But, in a sense I have mellowed, because I’ve had years to think about this, and I’ve talked with women I had relationships with in the past, and with the woman who I’ve been involved with for years now – so I did want to present a more balanced perspective. (I say this partly because, if you talk to women about anal, more often than not they will start out by talking about _unpleasant_ experiences they’ve had.)
I also wanted to start this blog out with a more general approach, and cover the basics that everyone should know. Then get into juicy stuff like dominance-submission, the pleasures of pain, and how to make pain pleasureable when it happens, stuff like that…
I would like to ask a question? I am a man with self anal intercourse. I have never been with a man but I like “Doing it to myself only”! My question is after I’ve started in for awaile something inside pushes back .and all they way out to my butt hole comes my didlo. What makes it do that? sign, Joe
Hi Joe, thanks very much for your comment!
The “pushing out” you describe is a natural consequence of the way the rectum is designed. and it’s likely to happen during all kinds of anal penetration. The rectum includes sets of muscles then squeeze to shut the gut, and also squeeze to help shit come out. If you get the right kinds of stimulations and feelings, the gentler muscular contractions of the bottom of the colon and the rectum combine in a rythym to firmly push at the cock, dildo, or finger that is sliding in and out of the ass. This is what pushes your dildo out, sometimes with considerable force, and often accompanied by an intense burst of sensations, some good, some almost too intense to be called good.
This will often happen during penis in anus intercourse too – it’s very common for the woman, or man, being fucked to have an inner convulsion that pops the cock right out of the ass.
Which can be either a painful or a very erotic experience for the man doing the anal fucking.
A great question, and I’ll talk more about several things you have brought up in future tips.