How to Introduce a Woman to Anal Play - the “Reach Under”.
How to Introduce a Woman to Anal Play - the “Reach Under”.
Actual full on anal fucking will always have a special thrill for men, your everyday buttman at least. But really, it only makes up a small part of the whole experience of anal sex, especially for most women, who understandably are likely to be a bit nervous about the extremely intense experience of being fucked in the ass.
So, most women want to be encouraged and introduced to anal sex and anal play. (Unless you are lucky enough to meet a woman who already knows she likes anal sex and who is just as interested as you are to include anal stimulation in your sex life.) There is a classic method of anal stimulation which is pretty much perfect for first time anal play with a woman, and that’s the “reach under”.
It’s also perfect for ongoing and everyday anal play - most of the time you are likely to be in a long term monogamous relationship, and the reach under is a good trick to spice up regular sex. It reminds your girl that you adore and want her asshole just as much as every other sexy part of her. Frankly, it’s always been one of my favorite sexual techniques and moves, I can tell it makes my beloveds sex experience hotter and it sure as hell gets me off.
How do you do a reach under? It’s pretty simple, and kind of self explanatory. During regular missionary position sex, put your weight on your left arm, and reach underneath her side and back to cup one of her butt cheeks in your right hand (reverse if you are left handed). In this position it’s pretty easy to lift her butt up a little, angling her vagina so you can stroke into it deeper. I never met a woman who didn’t love this. Then, let your fingers stroke around her vagina and perineum, and pick up a little moisture. And then, while fucking her a bit harder, let your fingertips rub acorss her anus and, after a few seconds to a few minutes, depending on how much you are enjoying just rubbing her asshole, start probing her anus with your moistened fingertips. When you have your fingertip in her asshole, her butt lifted up a few inches in your grip, and you are fucking her nice and hard, you have completed the reach under.
I don’t know about you guys, but if I have her held tight, with my finger being sucked at by her wet asshole, while she is yelling from my hard fucking, pretty soon I am going to have an amazing fucking orgasm. It definitely satisfies that anal desire of mine.
I’ve only had one woman say once to me “Take your finger out of my asshole you prick”, and that was because we were fighting a lot at the time anyway. I ignored her, pushed my finger in much deeper, and the combination of her anger, squirming, and the feeling of her asshole around my finger made me come after a few hard slamming strokes. And you know what? She didn’t seem to mind it a bit afterwards, in fact, she snuggled up to me substantially more enthusiastically than I expected.
Some women, however, can get overstimulated this way, or it will distract them from their vaginal pleasure, so you do have to be aware of how she is reacting. And, especially if this is one of the first times you are going to be doing this with a woman, like a lot of things in life, often less is more. Play with her asshole for a minute, then stop, and just hold her butt cheek. Use your own best judgement as to how fast to move towards having two fingers deep in her bottom ;-}
Chances are good most of my readers already know about the reach under in theory or are happy users of this sex trick already, but even so, I just want to remind you it’s a great trick, women like it, it’s a mind blower, and well worth perfecting.