I don’t usually go as far as to use four fingers myself, most of the time. You can put your first three fingers together into a tight triangular bundle and that works well for me. I’ll have to remember to rework some of my fingers in anal sex writing for this blog.

I guess I’m a little selfish when it comes to anal, because what i personally prefer is to use one finger, then just the tips of two fingers to relax and open the anus a bit more, and then lube up my cock and enter. I like that initial tightness and the little noises she makes as she takes that final stretching.

What you are describing is probably a bit more ideal from the girls point of view - altho, I’ll tell you, I’ve also had women say they liked it when I didn’t make the anal foreplay too long - admittededly this was always with women who had already learned how to push back their ass onto my dick.