How to Use Sexual Lubrication for Anal Sex.
You see these two things all the time in anal porn movies - either the actor squirts a big stream of sex lube onto the girls anus, ass cheeks, and everything else in view, or he puts a little dab on her anus, then jams his cock in. Neither of these is the right way to use lubes for anal sex.
So, let me suggest, from my experience, the best way to use anal lubes. First, and believe me this is very important, is to make sure you have some hand towels or at the very least paper towels nearby and handy where you usually have sex. If your relationship is new, I suggest hand towels, actual cloth towels, because chicks dig them and appreciate the extra effort. Why towels? Because sex lube is very messy, and to use it right your hands are likely to get sticky and messy and slippery, so you are going to need to wipe your hands off as soon as you have applied the lube. Believe me, the first time you put and lube without wiping your hands, and then try to grab your girls hips and tits and your hand slips off and you leave a mess and she says “Yuucckk”, you will know exactly why towels are important with sexlubes. You can try wiping your hands off on the sheets, or jumping up to grab some clothing or whatever for the purpose, but don’t be a chump, keep some towels ready for sex purposes.
Second, usually it’s better to put the lube on your cock than to try to put it on her asshole. (This is especially true if you are using a condom.) Put a good squirt of lube into the palm of your hand, and grab your hardon and put a coating of lube all over your cock. Try to concentrate the lube on the tip of your cock and the area where it is widest. Make sure you have lube all the way around, you don’t want to have a dry area which will stick and pull her delicate inner rectal flesh.
Sometimes you will want to squirt a little bit more on your fingertips, and apply this to her anus. But it usually isn’t necessary.
(I’m not going to mention here the complexities of using lube for fingering her ass, I’ll leave that for another entry.)
And, sometimes, especially if this is one of the first times you are going to have anal sex, once you have lubed your whole cock, put a little more lube onto your fingertips and apply an extra thick layer on the tip of your cock, to provide a bit of extra slipperiness for the initial entry.
Now, quickly wipe your hands clean and dry. This is the time to put at least one hand on her body, to re-establish physical touch, because during the time you have been lubing up, she has been thinking, and the last thing you want is for her to be thinking too much.
Again, you will want to practice using lubes during regular vaginal sex, to get used to using them, and to get your partner used to them also. But, for regular sex you will want to use substantially less lube. Just don’t make the mistake of never using lube, and then fumbling with it the first time you use it for anal.
So, to recap - put the lube on yourself, more than on her, and be ready to clean up the mess.
April 17th, 2006 at 8:59 am
Interesting advice and for many couples it’s probably a good procedure.In my own case ,when my partner suggested she
wanted to “feel what it was like to be ass fucked.” I found she
needed to be prepared for the experience by being slowly
entered by my well lubed finger(s).After being able to insert
three then four fingers into her rear while exciting her tits& clit with my other hand,She was in a high state of arousal and very receptive to anal intercourse.
April 19th, 2006 at 2:15 am
Hi Geof, I’ve written in other places articles about the importance of fingers in anal sex, so what you are saying sounds pretty damn good to me.
I don’t usually go as far as to use four fingers myself, most of the time. You can put your first three fingers together into a tight triangular bundle and that works well for me. I’ll have to remember to rework some of my fingers in anal sex writing for this blog.
I guess I’m a little selfish when it comes to anal, because what i personally prefer is to use one finger, then just the tips of two fingers to relax and open the anus a bit more, and then lube up my cock and enter. I like that initial tightness and the little noises she makes as she takes that final stretching.
What you are describing is probably a bit more ideal from the girls point of view - altho, I’ll tell you, I’ve also had women say they liked it when I didn’t make the anal foreplay too long - admittededly this was always with women who had already learned how to push back their ass onto my dick.
April 19th, 2006 at 2:26 am
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