ya think?
Take, for example, the latest data on anal sex. According to the National Survey of Family Growth, which surveyed thousands of people between the ages of 15 and 44 in 2006-2008, anal sex is really popular with heterosexuals. 44 percent of straight men report having anal sex at least once in their lives, and 36 percent of straight women do too.
i have an emergency question. google brough me to this blog and then i found this post.
on new year's eve my girlfriend and i decided to try anal for the first time. it was her first time and it was new year's eve so she was pretty drunk. i think we did most things right because it did not seem to hurt her but after about five minutes i began to notice that my cock was covered in shit. she clearly was not aware as we were in the doggy position and i did not mind too much but it smelled pretty bad. we carried on and i finished inside of her arse, but as i was pulling out she basically had a full bowel movement on the bed. the worst part is that she was completely unawere that it happened. what a mess.
anyway i wonder if that ever happened to you and why you think it hapened and what should i do in the future to avoid it?
Hey man – yes, it’s happened to me, tho maybe not as bad as you describe, and it has probably happened to every serious and skilled anal sex guy. It’s a mess, like you say, but it’s one of the normal possibilities from anal sex, ESPECIALLY drunken anal sex,
I’d say the important thing is not to freak out your girl by overemphasizing it – because, if you and she like anal, you might want to have it again under better conditions, and if you make her feel bad about it, she’s going to get uptight at the thought of future anal sex.
I personally always figure if I’m going to fuck my girl in the ass the sheets may be a loss.
You have to understand that the porn movies lie – those girls in teh movies have taken about 3 fleet enemas before their anal scene, so that shit almost never shows in the movie – but, the anus and rectum is a tube for moving shit out of the body, it’s ALWAYS possible that your girl has some poop in there, ESPECIALLY if anal sex is something that happened spontaneously.
I’ve written before about this – and said – if you are afraid of shit, and getting shit on your cock or on the bed, anal sex is not for you. And given advice for how to handle and avoid shit, such as, use an anal blanket, a nice soft blanket you throw over the bed that has a secret function, to catch shit if any appears, and then to be thrown away as a quick and graceful solution to th shit problem. I’ve also said, watch what your girl eats , and do NOT try anal sex after big meals or meals likely to cause bowel trouble.
Some alcohol and anal can be a great mix – but if she’s blasted drunk, dude, you are taking your chances – because of exactly what happened to you, alcohol will help her relax, but also increase the chances that she relaxes so much that she poops, or has the strong feeling of having to poop. She may need to jump up and run to the bathroom – this is VERY common – and you have to be a calm mature man about it, send her off, kiss her when she gets back, and carefully figure out if she can handle continueing.
It’s also very common for a girl, especially an inexperienced girl. to exclaim that she is afraid she is going to poop, especially when you are pulling out your cock. You know that STUPID trick that the idiot porn guys do to those poor girls, where they pop their cock out, show her asshole, and push it back in, over and over? DON’T DO THAT! it’s incredibly stupid, bad anal sex technique, and unless your girl is very experienced she almost certainly will hate it, because it makes her feel liek she is about to poop every time, and it’s not particularly pleasureable.
If your girl says she is afraid she is going to poop, tell her you understand, that it might happen but probably wont, that it’s not a problem if she does, you will just clean it up, shit is no big deal. The protection against that feeling of about-to-poop is to keep your dick in her, deep, and hold her. And if she says “No I really need to poop”, hug her and send her to the bathroom.
So, bottom line – what happened to you was normal – tho it usually won’t happen with well planned anal sex. I figure it’s your responsibility as the man to be calm about it and not make your girl feel bad.
And everybody, keep in mind, a shit accident is always a possibility with anal sex, be prepared, and never ever be a wuss about it.
(By the way guy, this is such an important question that I am going to make a dedicated post with it…)
Surely the end is nigh! (end – heh heh heh)
What has sizzling fatty goodness and slides into your girls fluttering anus – why, it's your cock, slathered with baconlube.
I hear it's crap. I shocked, shocked I say.
Use a good silicone lube instead, or.hailing that, one of the fairly good water base dlubes like astroglide.
Good silicone lubes aren;t always easy to find – you would think they'd be everywhere, astroglide is now, but in a lot of places it is still a speciality item.
Last week or so Jezebel published an article about butt sex… The Popularity And Perfectionism Behind Butt Sex
As articles go its a mix, some good commentary, some bad, I enjoyed it, even the "Anal sex is bad mkay because now all guys expect all girls to give up the anus" point of view.
I figure an atrticle like this is just going to make more girls want to do it – becaus eif some author somewhere says it's bad, that means it's good, and only the coolest naughty girls will do it, so if you do anal you are by definition cool and naughty.
But, the interesting thing is that it got some response and started a bity of discussion – so go read the article and start boneing up on the latest gossip about anal boning.
Here's some snippets…
The recent rise in the popularity of heterosexual anal sex among young people is demonstrable and has been documented in a series of studies over the past few years. As the Journal of Sexual Medicine announced in 2010, 40% of women age 20-24 report having done it at least once. The number of 18-19 year-olds who've been anally penetrated rose by 20% between 1992 and 2010. Whatever the catalyst for the rise in anal intercourse, its popularity is supported by data as well as anecdote.
In March 2011, Naomi Wolf told The Age that she'd heard from many college health professionals about a troubling rise in the number of female students suffering from "anal fissures caused by sex." A nurse practitioner at a large Southern California university whom I spoke with for this story confirmed that she'd noticed the same worrying phenomenon. "Until recently, I got maybe one question a year about anal sex from a female student. Now, I get several questions a month."
While the existing research verifies a rise in the number of young people having anal sex, what it doesn't yet measure is how many young women are pressured to do it. More than a few of the female commenters in my Facebook thread mentioned that they'd been asked repeatedly by boyfriends to, as one put it, "go to 5th base." Another, Alexandra, wrote that "it seems like butt sex is a constant expectation now. It's depressingly predictable… I'd say pretty damn near every guy I've ever dated or hooked up with has asked me if he could do it." Like several other women in the thread, Alexandra noted she'd never actually tried anal, but was tired of fending off the men who plead to be the first.
I love the expression "get to fifth base", don't you?
Anal tearing and anal fissures are no joke, but first I want to see the numbers and the evidence, because a famous trick in propaganda, especially sexual and political propaganda, is to make up medical statistics or stories to support beingh against something youi oppose politically or morally. So, I will see if I can confirm this story of anal fissures, for now I warn that it may be a fiction.
But, for christ's sake guys, YOU DO FUCKING KNOW THE PORN MOVIES DEPICTION OF HOW EASY ANAL PENETRATION IS, IS A PILE OF CRAP, RIGHT?
In real anal sex, until the girl has become very experienced and skilled, yes, like a fucking porn star skilled, you CAN'T JUST SHOVE IT IN WITHOUT LUBE!!!!!
Don't be a fucking idiot! Doing anal right is a skill, don't be an idiot and just jam it in! The porn movies lie, that's not how to do it.
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This bit of wisdom is from Dan Sacage and is about a gay man's enjoyment of some pain during anal sex, but it applies to a certain type of woman as well – that wonderful type of woman that every anal loving guy hopes to marry.
Yes. there are some women that like the pain of anal sex. It has to be the right level of pain, the right kind, but they do exist, and I adore every one of them.
Q: I'm a submissive gay man. All anal sex guides stress that when done right, anal sex should cause no pain. But what if I want pain? Over three years, my boyfriend and I have proceeded from having lots of anal foreplay to lube-it-up-and-stick-it-in. I love it, and once it stops hurting, as it always does after a while, I have amazing orgasms. So does he. There's a definite line between the arousing kind of pain and too much pain. But that line has moved closer to more intense pain, and I'm worried about injury. Then again, we're not sticking progressively bigger objects up my ass, just the same object with less foreplay. Is this risky? —Boy Used To Taking
A: It depends, BUTT.
You can enjoy lube-it-up-and-stick-it-in anal without incurring too great a risk of injury so long as your boyfriend isn't shoving his entire dick up your ass in one thrust. If he's pushing his dick in you gradually but firmly, giving your poor butt a chance to relax and adjust as he "forces" his way in, then you'll probably be OK. (Probably is the word of the day.)
That said, BUTT, while it's a fine thing to enjoy a little pain during sex — or "sensation play," as the kinksters have taken to calling it …
Click the link to read the whole answer, with the usual warnings and blah blah blah.
There is an energy source neglected by science – the endless flow of opinions about anal sex.
Case in point, another obligatory opinion piece about anal sex. At first i was bored with the expected, but, I dunno, it's kind of a unusual read:
"Are men these days beginning to graze around their women's rear side too often giving the ladies a tough time in bed? "
http://www.wavemag.com.np/issue/article3891.html
The abundance of nerve endings in the anal region and rectum makes anal sex pleasurable for many men and women, read an article on anal sex but I wonder how much does many women equal to. Because none of the women I talked to about anal sex had pleasant things to say about their experience. Most of them have had a rather nasty experience leaving their behind sore and making the morning trip to the loo too painful to even consider turning around in bed. If anal sex goes beyond experimentation just for the men's pleasure and thrill sake then it will surely take a toll on women physically and emotionally.
However, there seem to be plenty of couples who enjoy the same. Anal sex, as they, is an acquired taste. And those who have acquired the taste claim to have earth shattering orgasms. So while those couples continue to enjoy the joyride through the back door the remaining curious men need more than just few dollops of lubricant to persuade their women to join the club.
Brooklyn has one smokin' hot body! She's got the perfect little tiny tits that you just want to chew on! She hooked up with this guy and showed off her oral skills as she swallowed him down her throat. Then he showed off his anal skills as she took him in the ass! Brooklyn's ass was tight but she managed to take every last inch of him inside!
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