Anal Dominance - Hard Truths for Hard Times
October 22nd, 2007Here’s an interesting article with discussion of psychological and sexual dominance in anal sex, including some stuff on ass to mouth, and the influence of anal porn on the perceptions of anal sex in popular culture.
I think the author totally misses the point with his claim that ass to mouth is a dehumanizing act. It’s an act of power-over, of extreme domination, but what makes it exciting is the woman’s humanity, not making her a thing. She is never more female, more lovable, than when she is submitting to anal domination.
The social and psychological reasons for this are fairly clear. There’s a huge amount of male disempowerment and emotional ambiguity in male-female relations in modern society. Men often feel reduced to economic breeding units, useful only as a source of impregnation, and after impregnation kept around as an economic slave, not as a sexually exciting male. This sense of not being valued as men, and as fuckers, is what makes extreme dominating anal porn so fulfilling.
Something like ass to mouth in porn (which I do NOT recommend in reality, by the way) is so exciting because it gives us an image of a woman so overcome by passion that she will do something nasty just to give her man greater pleasure.
—
“… But it’s also clear that most women do not seek out anal penetration, and therein lies the answer: Pornography, with its overwhelming male clientele, moves toward sexual acts that most women in day-to-day life do not seek out because most women find them either not pleasurable, painful, or denigrating. Those are the very same acts that men seem to find intensely pleasurable to watch in pornography. Here’s how one pornography industry executive explained the appeal of anal sex to me:
Essentially, it comes from every man who’s unhappily married, and he looks at his wife who just nagged at him about this or that or what-not, and he says, “I’d like to fuck you in the ass.” He’s angry at her, right? And he can’t, so he would rather watch some girl taking it up the ass and fantasize at that point he’s doing whatever girl happened to be mean to him that particular day, and that is the attraction, because when people watch anal, nobody wants to watch a girl enjoying anal.
No doubt this executive overstates the case; there are many films in which women appear to enjoy anal penetration, indicating many men enjoy the image of women getting pleasure that way. But it’s also true that many films portray women enduring, not enjoying, anal penetration. Sometimes this is made explicit, as in the website AnalSuffering.com, which promises, “Nothing makes these sluts hornier and nastier than the pain caused by a huge cock ramming up their tight asses.”
—
The most plausible explanation of the popularity of these acts is that men know that women in the world outside pornography do not want to engage in such acts and, unless forced, will not participate. Men know that — and they find it sexually arousing to watch them in part because of that knowledge.
Finally, consider ATM. In physical terms, it’s difficult to imagine that a man’s pleasure is enhanced by a woman taking his penis in her mouth directly from her anus or another woman’s anus; that act does not increase the physical stimulation of nerve endings. So, why do it? Again, the most plausible explanation is clear: To suck a man’s penis directly from an anus is unhygienic and potentially dangerous. When a woman does it, she is either expressing disregard for her own health or accepting the man’s implicit imposition of the idea that her health is of no concern. Either way, she is less than fully human.
Even someone from the industry, writing as the “Anal Advisor,” concedes there are health risks in the practice. In response to a letter about the rise of ATM in pornography, she writes:
Taking your dick out of a woman’s ass and directly shoving it into her mouth may make for exciting porn, but, in real life, it can be problematic. Bacteria lives in the butt that may not peacefully exist in the mouth, and could lead to an infection. No matter how squeaky clean her rectum may be, chances are there are at least trace amounts of fecal matter which may end up on your dick — do you really want to make her suck that off? Would you put it in your own mouth?
Even more interesting is the second half of her response, in which she acknowledges the intensity of some men’s desire for ATM:
I have a better idea. Fuck her in the ass til she’s right on the edge of orgasm, or you are. Order her to get on her knees and close her eyes. Talk to her, tell her she better open up her mouth for your cock. Have an anti-bacterial baby wipe stashed nearby, and quietly grab it, slide it over your cock, then toss it. Now proceed with sticking your rod in her mouth, keeping the fantasy intact, but keeping it clean for everyone involved.
In other words, it’s fine to want to treat a woman as less than fully human and to find sexual pleasure in it, but please do it in a way that is hygienic.
Read the whole article here:
